by Calien Trevino | Apr 11, 2025 | Anxiety, General, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders
You know what’s fucked up? Society teaches us that in order to be loved, we have to seem perfect. That if we follow this invisible checklist of life milestones, we’ll be happy, successful, and worthy of admiration. Graduate by 22, land the dream job, get married by 30, buy a house, have kids, and live happily ever after. And if you don’t? Well, welcome to the existential crisis club.
For years, I felt like I was falling behind. I dropped out of college during my undergrad, and it took me seven years to earn my degree. I didn’t get married until I was 30. I still don’t own a home, and I don’t have kids. Meanwhile, I watched my friends and family checking all the traditional boxes. The weddings, the mortgages, the baby announcements—it felt like everyone had their lives together while I was stuck in a never-ending game of catch-up. And let me tell you, that mindset? It was brutal on my mental health.
The Pressure to “Keep Up” is Ruining Our Mental Health
When we measure our success by society’s timeline, we set ourselves up for disappointment. Because let’s be real—life isn’t a neatly wrapped package with a predictable timeline. It’s messy, unpredictable, and uniquely yours. But the pressure to keep up with everyone else? That’s what leads to stress, anxiety, burnout, and an overwhelming feeling of not enoughness.
Scrolling through social media doesn’t help. You see people your age buying houses, traveling the world, launching businesses, or announcing engagements, and suddenly you’re questioning everything. Am I doing something wrong? Did I waste my time? Why am I not where they are? Spoiler alert: comparison is a liar, and social media is a highlight reel—not reality.
Success is Different for Everyone (And That’s a Good Thing)
So let’s rewrite the script. Success isn’t one-size-fits-all. Maybe for you, success means:
- Prioritizing mental health over hustle culture.
- Healing from trauma and breaking generational cycles.
- Loving your job (even if it doesn’t come with a six-figure salary).
- Finding joy in the little things, like slow mornings and deep conversations.
- Building a community of people who actually get you.
When we fixate on outdated definitions of success, we rob ourselves of the joy of the present moment. We focus so much on what we haven’t accomplished that we forget to appreciate what we have.
Breaking Free From the Timeline Mentality
So how do we break free from this societal pressure? Here are a few things that helped me:
- Question the Narrative – Ask yourself: Is this something I actually want, or is it just what I think I should want?
- Celebrate Non-Traditional Wins – Healing, setting boundaries, personal growth—these are all major accomplishments.
- Step Away from the Comparison Game – Mute, unfollow, or take a break from social media when you need to.
- Create Your Own Definition of Success – One that aligns with your values, not anyone else’s.
- Be Kind to Yourself – Life isn’t a race. You’re not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be.
You Are Not Behind. You Are on Your Path.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling behind, take a deep breath. You’re not. There is no universal timeline for success, happiness, or fulfillment. Your path is your own, and the more you embrace it, the more you’ll realize—you were never behind in the first place.
So here’s your permission slip to live life your way. Success isn’t about checking arbitrary boxes—it’s about building a life that actually feels good to you.
And that? That’s worth celebrating. 🥂
Visit us at https://www.novatherapypllc.com to start breaking free!
by Calien Trevino | Mar 28, 2025 | Anxiety, General, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders
If you’ve spent any time on the internet, you’ve probably heard something about ADHD. Maybe you’ve seen memes about people with ADHD hyper-fixating on a random hobby for a week straight or forgetting where they put their phone while it’s literally in their hand. But ADHD is so much more than just being a little scatterbrained or “bad at paying attention.” It’s a full-life experience that impacts emotions, relationships, and even everyday routines.
And, fun fact—I don’t have ADHD, but my husband does. And let me tell you, it has been a journey of learning, understanding, and (let’s be real) exercising an unreal amount of patience. Like that one Valentine’s Day when I went to Pilates for an hour and came home to what looked like a natural disaster in our kitchen. While I so appreciated his effort to make steak, lobster, salad, chocolate-covered apples and strawberries, and a bouquet of flowers (romance level 100, right?), he completely destroyed the kitchen in the process. Dishes were everywhere, cabinet doors were all wide open, there wasn’t a single inch of counter space left. Meanwhile, I had planned for a super chill night—pizza, a movie, and just relaxing. Instead, I spent three hours helping him finish the meal (because he hadn’t even gotten to cooking yet) and then cleaning up the absolute wreckage.
And that, my friends, is just a glimpse of what it’s like to love someone with ADHD.
WHAT IS ADHD, REALLY?
First things first—let’s talk about what ADHD actually is. ADHD, or Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects a person’s ability to regulate attention, impulses, and emotions. It’s not just about being “hyper” or “easily distracted”—it’s a full-body, full-life experience.
ADHD symptoms usually fall into three categories:
- Inattention – Difficulty focusing, getting easily distracted, forgetting things, struggling with organization and time management.
- Hyperactivity – Restlessness, fidgeting, trouble sitting still, feeling like they need to be doing something all the time.
- Impulsivity – Interrupting conversations, making decisions without thinking through consequences, emotional outbursts.
Not everyone with ADHD has hyperactivity—many people (especially adults) have more of the inattentive or combined type, meaning they might look totally “functional” on the outside but internally feel scattered, overwhelmed, and exhausted.
ADHD MYTHS: LET’S BUST ‘EM
Before we dive into what ADHD actually looks like, let’s clear up some of the biggest myths floating around out there.
MYTH #1: ADHD is just about not being able to focus.
Nope. ADHD is more like struggling to regulate focus. That means sometimes people with ADHD have trouble concentrating, but other times, they hyperfocus for hours on something they find interesting (hello, 10-hour deep dive into obscure Wikipedia pages).
MYTH #2: ADHD only affects kids.
Another hard no. While ADHD is often diagnosed in childhood, it doesn’t just disappear when someone turns 18. Adults with ADHD deal with challenges in work, relationships, and daily life—often without the support they needed when they were younger.
MYTH #3: People with ADHD are just lazy.
If I had a dollar for every time I heard this one, I could afford to hire someone to clean up after my husband’s next grand project. ADHD isn’t about laziness—it’s about executive dysfunction. That means starting tasks, organizing thoughts, and following through on plans can be way harder than it seems. It’s not a lack of effort; it’s a difference in brain wiring.
MYTH #4: ADHD isn’t a real disorder.
If only it were that simple. ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, backed by decades of research and brain imaging. It affects how the brain processes information, regulates emotions, and manages impulses. So yeah, very real.
WHAT ADHD ACTUALLY LOOKS LIKE
So what does ADHD look like in real life? It’s different for everyone, but here are some common traits:
- Impulsivity – Saying things without thinking, interrupting conversations, making questionable late-night online purchases.
- Hyperfocus – Zoning in on one task for hours and completely forgetting to eat, drink water, or, you know, respond to texts.
- Time Blindness – Thinking 10 minutes have passed when it’s actually been 2 hours (or vice versa).
- Forgetfulness – Losing keys, forgetting appointments, or leaving the laundry in the washer for days (…weeks?).
- Difficulty with Transitions – Struggling to shift from one task to another, especially if they’re deep in hyperfocus mode.
- Emotional Dysregulation – Feeling emotions big time—whether it’s excitement, frustration, or stress.
LOVING SOMEONE WITH ADHD
Being married to someone with ADHD has taught me a lot about patience, communication, and adapting. Some days, I feel like the project manager of our lives—reminding him of appointments, helping him stay on track, and creating structure where his brain thrives. Other days, I see how his ADHD brings so much spontaneity, creativity, and energy into our life.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
- Expect the unexpected. Plans might change because their brain suddenly decides now is the time for a random deep-clean of the closet or a new hobby.
- Give gentle reminders, not nagging. Framing things positively helps—“Hey babe, remember you were going to call the doctor today?” instead of “Did you seriously forget again?”
- Pick your battles. Some things just aren’t worth getting worked up over. If my husband leaves cabinets open, I take a deep breath and close them. It’s not the end of the world (even if it is mildly infuriating).
- Celebrate their strengths. ADHD brains are full of creativity, passion, and out-of-the-box thinking. When they’re in their element, it’s magic.
FINAL THOUGHTS
If you love someone with ADHD—or you are someone with ADHD—just know that it’s not about “fixing” or “curing” anything. It’s about understanding, adapting, and appreciating the way ADHD brains work. Yes, there are challenges, but there’s also so much vibrancy, creativity, and fun that comes with it.
And if your partner ever decides to make an elaborate Valentine’s Day dinner while you’re out for an hour… just mentally prepare yourself. It might not go as planned, but hey, at least it makes for a good story. And don’t forget to visit us at https://www.novatherapypllc.com for your ADHD!
by Calien Trevino | Mar 14, 2025 | Anxiety, General, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders
There’s something both exhilarating and terrifying about the question: Who am I?
For a long time, I thought I knew. As a teenager, I had this image of myself that felt so solid. But looking back, it’s almost laughable how little I actually knew. The truth is, I spent my entire life trying to be the person everyone needed me to be—the responsible one, the strong one, the peacekeeper. I was the glue holding my family together, the problem solver, the one who had to be level-headed and put everyone else first.
I was also the one expected to succeed. My dad made it clear that I needed to be the first to finish college, the one to “make something” of myself. And I did—on the outside, at least. But on the inside? I was drowning.
The Cost of Living for Everyone But Yourself
For years, I didn’t understand why I was so deeply unhappy. Why I felt empty. Why I didn’t want to be alive. My teenage and young adult years were spent in this quiet, crushing depression that I couldn’t even fully name. It wasn’t just sadness—it was this deep, aching void that made life feel unbearable.
Now, I understand why. It was because I wasn’t actually living. My life wasn’t mine. I had no control, no autonomy, no space to even ask myself what I truly wanted.
But if I had been able to?
I would have said that I wanted to be a dancer. That I wanted to be famous. That I wanted to explore my sexual identity. That I wanted to at least try to discover who I was without the weight of expectations crushing me.
But I wasn’t allowed to. My family needed me to be the rock, the fixer, the one who smoothed things over when everything fell apart. It got to the point where dancing—something I once loved—no longer brought me joy because deep down, I knew I’d never get to be the dancer I dreamed I could be.
Breaking Free & Finally Choosing Myself
And then, in 2023, something changed.
I found the strength to finally say no more. I told the world—meaning my family—to stop fucking telling me who I should be. And for the first time, I started to figure out who I actually was.
And what I found?
I’m bisexual. And my husband, the love of my life, is the first person who fully accepts that part of me. He gave me the courage to stop caring about what others think, to embrace myself fully, to stop hiding.
I love Pilates—which is shocking because I spent years resenting fitness. But now I see that my hatred of exercise wasn’t about movement itself—it was about the societal pressure to look a certain way, to be thin enough, perfect enough, worthy enough.
I stopped comparing my life to other people’s timelines. I embraced my career path, even though it’s barely starting in my 30s. I found my own definition of success, one that actually feels meaningful to me.
And you know what? Dancing makes me happy again. Because now, it’s mine.
How to Start Your Own Journey of Self-Discovery
If you’re feeling lost, if you’re struggling to figure out who you are outside of what everyone expects from you—know that you’re not alone. And also? There’s no deadline on self-discovery. You don’t have to have it all figured out by 18, 25, or even 30.
So where do you start?
1. Get Curious About Yourself
Ask the big questions: What excites me? What drains me? If no one was watching, what would I do just for me?
2. Try New Things
You don’t find yourself by just thinking—you find yourself by doing. Experiment. Take risks. Try that new hobby, explore that passion, put yourself out there.
3. Embrace the Cringe
You’re going to mess up. You’re going to change your mind. You’re going to look back and laugh (or cringe) at past versions of yourself. That’s growth. That’s the point.
4. Therapy & Journaling
If you’re struggling with identity, therapy can be life-changing. And what better way to start therapy then with Nova Therapy! Visit us at https://www.novatherapypllc.com to get started. Journaling is another powerful way to untangle your thoughts and explore your emotions without judgment if therapy feels a little bit intimidating to you right now.
5. Mindfulness & Self-Compassion
Learn to sit with yourself without distractions. Meditation, breathwork, or even just taking a moment to pause can help you reconnect with what feels right for you.
6. Stop Comparing Your Journey to Others
Social media makes it look like everyone else has life figured out. They don’t. Your timeline is yours—own it.
7. Listen to Yourself
Not your family. Not your friends. Not society. You. What feels right? What aligns with your values? The more you trust yourself, the more your real identity will unfold.
Finding Purpose Without the Pressure
Let’s talk about purpose. That word can feel so heavy—like if you don’t have some grand, world-changing purpose figured out, you’re failing. But here’s the truth: Purpose isn’t just one big thing.
It’s found in the small moments. In the things that bring you joy. In how you show up for yourself and others.
Instead of asking, What’s my one true purpose?, ask:
👉 What brings meaning to my life right now?
👉 How can I create joy in my everyday life?
👉 What do I want to explore next?
You Are Becoming—And That’s Beautiful
If you’re in the thick of figuring out who you are, take a deep breath. You’re not behind. You’re not lost. You’re becoming. And that is a damn beautiful thing.
So keep exploring. Keep questioning. Keep growing.
And most importantly? Keep choosing you.
by Calien Trevino | Feb 14, 2025 | General, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders
Valentine’s Day is often seen as a celebration of romantic love, but the truth is, it’s about all types of love—and that includes the love you give yourself and the love shared with your closest friends. Whether you’re in a relationship, navigating heartbreak, or spending the day with your besties, this day can be a powerful reminder to appreciate the people who matter most in your life.
In today’s blog post, we’re going to explore the importance of self-love, nurturing your friendships, and strengthening the love in your relationship—because Valentine’s Day is really about making sure you feel loved in every way possible.
Let’s Start with You: Self-Love and Self-Care
Valentine’s Day can bring up all kinds of emotions—especially if you’re single or going through a tough time. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need someone else to make you feel loved and happy, but that’s just not true. The most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.
If you’re not in a relationship, Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to practice self-care and focus on celebrating YOU. Maybe you take yourself out to your favorite coffee shop, treat yourself to a cozy evening, or do something creative or relaxing that makes you feel good. Self-love isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing yourself kindness, patience, and appreciation.
Remember, you are your own source of happiness. You can’t always rely on other people to make you feel validated, loved, or worthy. True love starts from within, and when you prioritize self-care and self-compassion, you’re in a better position to love others, too.
Healing from Heartbreak: Be Gentle with Your Heart
If you’re recovering from heartbreak or feeling lonely, Valentine’s Day can feel like a reminder of what you’re missing. But I want you to know that healing takes time, and it’s okay to not have everything figured out. Heartbreak is hard, and sometimes it feels like you’ll never fully move past it. But you will.
It’s important to allow yourself to feel the emotions without judgment—whether that’s sadness, anger, or even relief. These feelings are all a part of the process. Be gentle with yourself. Don’t rush your healing. It’s not a linear path, and that’s perfectly fine.
While you’re healing, find ways to nurture yourself. Focus on activities that bring you peace and joy, whether that’s journaling, spending time in nature, or hanging out with close friends. The key is to honor your feelings and give yourself the time and space to heal—there’s no deadline for moving on.
Galentine’s Day: Celebrating Friendship & Connection
For many of us, friendships are the true backbone of our lives. Your besties, the ones who have laughed with you, supported you, and celebrated your wins—they deserve all the love today, too.
Galentine’s Day is all about appreciating the amazing women and friends who choose you as an important person in their life. Even if your friends are in different places emotionally or physically, remember this: they’ve chosen you. That choice to be part of your life is worth celebrating.
Here are a few ways to show your appreciation to the incredible friends in your life:
- Send a thoughtful message: Let them know how much they mean to you. It could be as simple as a text, a handwritten card, or a thoughtful gift that shows you care.
- Set up a virtual hangout: If you can’t be together in person, a video call or even a surprise care package can go a long way in showing you’re thinking of them.
- Reminisce about your favorite memories: Reach out to friends and share your favorite moments together—reminiscing about those times brings you closer and strengthens your bond.
- Offer emotional support: Check in on your friends, listen to them, and show them they can count on you, no matter where they are in life.
Valentine’s Day isn’t just about romantic love; it’s about honoring all the people who make your life special. So take today as an opportunity to thank those who’ve been there for you, and let them know you appreciate them.
Celebrating Love as a Couple: Let’s Keep It Real
Now, for those of you in relationships, Valentine’s Day can be a time to celebrate the bond you share with your partner. But here’s a little reminder: Valentine’s Day isn’t about materialism or extravagant gestures. It’s about connection, appreciation, and showing love in meaningful ways.
If you and your partner are feeling pressure to make the day perfect or splash out on expensive gifts, take a step back and focus on the true meaning of this day—it’s about love, not stuff.
Here are a few ways to show love to your partner today (and every day):
- Spend quality time together: Whether it’s a cozy night in or a walk down memory lane, make sure you’re present with each other.
- Small gestures, big impact: A handwritten note, a thoughtful surprise, or just a simple “I love you” goes a long way. It’s not about the grand gestures, it’s about showing you care.
- Communicate in their love language: Make sure you’re showing love in a way that resonates with your partner—whether that’s through words, touch, acts of service, or quality time.
- Be kind and supportive: In a healthy relationship, kindness goes a long way. Show up for each other, even when things get tough.
Remember, Valentine’s Day is about connection, not comparison. Show love through the little things, be kind to each other, and celebrate the bond you’ve created together.
Wrapping Up
Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love in all its forms. Whether it’s self-love, the love of your friends, or the bond you share with your partner, it’s a chance to reflect on the connections that matter most.
So, take today to appreciate yourself and the people who choose you every day. And no matter what your relationship status is, remember that you are deserving of love, kindness, and all the good things life has to offer.
Happy Valentine’s Day! Let’s spread love and appreciation in every way we can.
by Calien Trevino | Jan 24, 2025 | Anxiety, General, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders
Let’s be real: life can be overwhelming. Whether you’re hustling through your 9-5 or managing kids, a home, and everything in between, burnout can creep up on you faster than you can say “I need a vacation.” But here’s the good news: you don’t have to hit rock bottom before you make a change. Recognizing burnout early and making small tweaks to your routine can make a huge difference in how you feel. So, let’s talk about burnout prevention and how you can protect your energy while still crushing it in life.
What Burnout Looks Like (And How to Spot It Early)
We’ve all been there—the endless to-do lists, the pressure to do more, and the constant feeling like you’re running on empty. But burnout isn’t something that just happens overnight. It’s a slow burn, pun intended. And if we’re being honest, most of us don’t realize it until it’s almost too late.
Here are some signs burnout might be sneaking up on you:
- Exhaustion – Not just tired, but deeply drained. Like, you can’t even remember the last time you felt rested.
- Irritability – Everything and everyone is annoying. You’re snapping at people, even over little things.
- Feeling disconnected – You’re mentally and emotionally checked out. Whether it’s work, your relationships, or your hobbies, nothing feels exciting anymore.
- Physical issues – Stress shows up in the body. Headaches, stomach problems, trouble sleeping… it’s your body’s way of saying, “I’m not okay.”
- Lack of motivation – Things that once lit a fire in you now feel like a chore. You’re struggling to find the energy or desire to do anything.
If you’re nodding your head to any of these, don’t freak out just yet! The good news is, burnout is manageable if you catch it early and take action.
The Ripple Effect: How Burnout Affects You AND the People Around You
Here’s something we don’t talk about enough: burnout doesn’t just affect you—it spills over into the people around you. If you’re running on empty, it’s hard to show up for the people who matter most.
- Your relationships: You might find yourself snapping at your partner, pulling away from your kids, or avoiding friends. When you’re burned out, it’s easy to become distant or short-tempered with the people you care about.
- Your work: Burnout can tank your productivity. You might miss deadlines, make mistakes, or feel like you’re just going through the motions. And let’s be real, if you’re a leader, that burnout can spread to your team, lowering morale for everyone.
- Your health: Chronic stress can lead to a ton of physical problems, like headaches, sleep issues, and even long-term conditions like heart disease. It’s not just mental exhaustion—it’s a full-body experience.
So, yeah, burnout doesn’t just hurt you—it affects everyone around you. That’s why it’s so important to prioritize your well-being before you hit that point.
Setting Boundaries: No, You Don’t Have to Do It All
Now that we’ve identified burnout, let’s talk about what we can do to stop it before it gets worse. Boundaries, my friend. It’s a simple word, but it’s game-changing.
If you’re someone who’s constantly taking on more at work or home, you’ve got to learn how to say no. And guess what? It doesn’t make you lazy or ungrateful—it makes you smart. Here are a few ways to start setting boundaries:
- Say no (without the guilt) – Whether it’s an extra work project or another playdate you don’t have the energy for, it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to explain yourself or feel bad about it.
- Set work hours – If you’re working from home, set clear boundaries for when your workday starts and ends. Don’t let your job bleed into your personal time.
- Delegate – You don’t have to do it all. Whether it’s asking for help at home or at work, delegating tasks gives you the space you need to breathe.
- Put yourself on your calendar – Yep, you heard me right. Schedule time for yourself, even if it’s just 10 minutes to relax, read, or take a walk. If it’s not on the calendar, it probably won’t happen.
Sustainable Self-Care: Little Changes That Make a Big Difference
You don’t need to go on a week-long spa retreat (although, that would be nice, right?) to prevent burnout. Sometimes, the smallest changes can make the biggest impact on your well-being. Let’s talk about some simple, sustainable self-care strategies:
- Micro-breaks – Taking 5-10 minute breaks every hour can actually help you stay focused and recharge throughout the day.
- Hydrate and Nourish – We’re all guilty of grabbing unhealthy snacks or forgetting to drink water when we’re busy. But keeping your body fueled is a must for maintaining energy.
- Move Your Body – You don’t have to hit the gym for an hour. A quick stretch, a walk around the block, or even dancing around your kitchen can boost your mood and energy.
- Connect with Loved Ones – Whether it’s a phone call, a text, or a quick hangout, staying connected to people who lift you up is key.
- Sleep – It’s the foundation for everything. Aim for 7-9 hours a night. Your body and brain will thank you.
- Therapy – Visit us at https://www.novatherapypllc.com because mental health is a priority!
Final Thoughts: Protect Your Energy
Burnout doesn’t have to be inevitable. By setting boundaries, recognizing the signs early, and making small changes to your daily routine, you can protect your energy and prevent burnout from taking over. Remember: you’re allowed to prioritize yourself. In fact, it’s one of the best things you can do for everyone around you.
Take care of yourself first, and everything else will fall into place.
by Calien Trevino | Jan 10, 2025 | Anxiety, General, Personality Disorders, Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders
Hey friends! Today we’re talking about something super relevant as we begin a new year: self-acceptance and the pressure to be perfect.
Let’s be real: this time of year can be a lot. We’re all looking back at what we’ve achieved, what didn’t quite go as planned, and setting our sights on what we want in the next 12 months. It’s motivating but also, let’s face it, a bit overwhelming. Why do we always feel like we need to chase this idea of “perfect”? Spoiler alert: perfection isn’t real, and constantly striving for it can totally suck the joy out of life.
So, in today’s blog post, we’re breaking down how perfectionism messes with our mental health, how to ditch those unrealistic expectations, and how to set goals that actually support your well-being in the new year.
The Weight of Perfectionism
Okay, let’s get real: perfectionism is exhausting. It’s that voice in your head that says, “If it’s not perfect, it’s not worth it.” Or worse, “People will think less of you if you mess up.” Sound familiar? Same here.
Here’s the deal: perfectionism might look like ambition on the surface, but it’s not about doing your best—it’s about tying your worth to the outcome. When we tie our value to achieving impossible standards, we’re left feeling like we’re never good enough, no matter how hard we try. Not only is it draining, but it can also fuel anxiety, depression, and burnout.
Perfectionism has deep roots. For some, it starts in childhood, maybe when achievements were praised and love seemed tied to success. For others, it’s society’s message that we need to have it all together. Or maybe it’s just a way to feel in control when life feels chaotic. Whatever the cause, recognizing the pattern is the first step toward letting go of it.
Embracing Imperfection
So, what can we do about it? It’s time to make a major mindset shift. Instead of striving for perfection, let’s focus on progress. Let’s be kinder to ourselves and embrace the reality that being human means being imperfect.
Here are some practical ways to make that happen:
- Be your own hype person: When you mess up, talk to yourself like you would your best friend. Say, “It’s okay. I’m learning.” Cut out the self-criticism and replace it with kindness. Trust me, it works.
- Stop the all-or-nothing spiral: Perfectionism loves to say, “If I can’t do it perfectly, why bother?” Instead, take small steps and celebrate those wins—no matter how small. Progress is progress!
- Celebrate your wins: Whether you made it through the week or just took one step forward, give yourself some credit. Even the little things matter.
- Reframe failure: Instead of seeing failure as something to fear, view it as feedback. It’s not the end of the road—it’s just part of the journey.
- Set chill goals: Break big goals into smaller, more manageable pieces. This way, you won’t feel overwhelmed, and you can actually enjoy the progress you’re making.
New Year, New Mindset
Ah, New Year’s resolutions. It’s that time of year where we’re all about setting goals. But this year, let’s make those resolutions not just about achievements but about our well-being. Think mental, physical, and emotional wellness. Here are a few of my personal goals for the new year:
- Be more present: I’m cutting back on social media so I can really enjoy quality time with myself and my husband. Less scrolling, more connection.
- Take better care of myself: I’m committing to working out five times a week and drinking more water. It’s about feeling good, not just looking good.
- Read more: I’m aiming for two books a month. Reading is a huge stress-reliever and a great way to open up new perspectives.
- Date nights: Two date nights a month with my husband are non-negotiable. Whether it’s a fancy dinner or a chill night at home, these moments matter.
What about you? Here are some ideas for wellness-focused resolutions:
- Mental health: Start journaling, meditate, or maybe book that therapy session you’ve been putting off. Visit us at https://www.novatherapypllc.com to get started!
- Physical health: Focus on how you want to feel rather than how you want to look. Maybe it’s dancing, hiking, or just moving more.
- Emotional health: Work on letting go of grudges or being kinder to yourself.
- Relationships: Whether it’s setting boundaries or spending more time with loved ones, make connection a priority.
Remember: it’s not about perfection. It’s about progress. Let’s make this year about feeling good, showing kindness to ourselves, and embracing all the imperfect moments.
A Kinder Year Ahead
So, as we close, here’s the main takeaway: self-acceptance is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Let go of the pressure to be perfect, and you’ll unlock more joy, growth, and real connection in the year ahead.
Let’s step into this new year with a little more kindness for ourselves and others. Set goals that make you feel good, embrace your imperfections, and celebrate the journey.
That’s it for today’s post! If this resonated with you, share it with a friend who could use some encouragement. And hey, let’s keep the conversation going on social media—just, you know, not too much. 😉
Take care of yourself, and remember, you’re enough just as you are.
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